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Monday, November 12, 2018

SIGNS THAT YOUR CHILD IS BEING BULLIED IN SCHOOL

At one time or the other, you would have experienced your kid waking up and not showing interest in going to school. Often times we tend to think they are just being lazy; and we force them to go anyway. I think it’s high time we slowed down and listen to them in order to decipher their reasons not wanting to attend school. For all you care, they might be going through one form of bullying or the other. Here’s an insight into the world of bullying.


Bullying is an intentional, aggressive and repeated behaviour that involves an imbalance of power or strength.
It can take several forms:

  • Physical (hitting, punching, beating)
  • Verbal (teasing, name calling, threat)
  • Emotional (intimidation- using gestures, social exclusion, threat)
  • Sexual
  • Racist taunts
  • Cyberbullying (online, harassment, hate messages, threats, impersonation, and other digital abuse)
  • Hazing


Warning signs:

  • Your child comes home with torn, damaged, or missing pieces of clothing, books, or other belongings
  • Has inexplicable cuts, bruises, and scratches
  • Has a few, if any friends, with whom he or she spends time 
  • Seems afraid of walking to, and from school, riding the school bus, or taking part in organized activities whit peers
  • Find or makes up excuses as to why they can’t go to school.
  • Takes a long out of the way route when walking to or from school
  • Has lost interest in school work, or suddenly begins to do poorly in school
  • Appears sad, moody, teary, or depressed when he or she comes home
  • Complains frequently of headaches, stomach-aches or other physical ailments
  • Has trouble sleeping or has frequent bad dreams
  • Experiences a loss of appetite
  • Appears anxious and suffers from low self-esteem

Note: Children with disabilities may be at higher risk of being bullied than other children.

WHAT TO DO IF YOU SUSPECT YOUR
CHILD IS A VICTIM OF BULLYING.
The above signs suggest bullying; but they are also signs of other abuse as well. If your child displays any of these signs, talk with them and members of staff to learn more about what’s going on.
When talking with your child, don’t just ask if they’re being bullied. A better way to approach it is to say;
‘’ I’ve heard a lot about bullying in the news. Is that going on at your school?’’
‘’ I’m worried about you. Are there any kids at school who may be picking on you or bullying you?’’
‘’Are there any kids at school who tease you in any mean way?’’
‘’Are there kids at school who leave you out or exclude you on purpose?’’

SOME SUBTLE QUESTIONS:

  • ‘’Do you have any special friends at school this year? Who do you hang out with?’’
  • ‘’Who do you sit with at launch or in the bus?’’
  • ‘’Are there any kids in your school who you really don’t like? Why don’t you like them? Do they ever pick on you or leave you out of things?’’

If your kids or teens are being bullied do not over react. Assure them that you love them and this is not your fault and you will help them. Let them now they can talk to you about anything.

Talk, with your kid’s/teen’s school. Call or fix an appointment to talk with their teacher. Teachers are likely in the best position to understand the relationship between your child and their peers in school.

Share your concern about your child and ask the teacher such questions as:

  • ‘’How does my child get along with other students in his or her class?’’
  • ‘’With whom does he or she spend free time with?’’
  • ‘’Have you noticed or have you ever suspected that my child s being bullied by other students?’’
  • Offer some examples of some ways kids and teens are bullied so that the teacher fully understands that you’re not focused on one form of bullying.

Ask the teacher to talk with other faculty and staff who interact with your child ant school to see whether they observed your child being bullied by his or her peers.
If you are not comfortable talking to your child’s teacher, or no satisfied with the conversation, make an appointment to meet with your child’s guidance, or principal to discuss these concerns.
If you believe your child is being bullied take quick action as bullying can have serious effects on kids and teens.

If, after talking with your child and his or her school, and you don’t feel that your child is being bullied, be at alert to other possible problems that could cause depression, social isolation, and loss of interest in school and share your concerns with a school counsellor or psychologist.

By Olotu V. (Mrs.)

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